Tell someone you are happy they are ALIVE today

Three years ago I was in so much pain that leaving this world, ending my life, was the only way I believed the pain would all end.

Last night I started writing a post about what got me to that point and I couldn’t complete it, I became too emotional. I will complete that post in the next little while but for now, what’s in my heart, is just to say:

Tell someone you are happy they are ALIVE today.

You might believe they know it, you might believe you’ve told them that you love them recently or that they should just know … and you probably have and they probably should but how many times have you said the words, “I’m glad you are alive today”? Those are different words than “I love you”. Those are powerful words.

Part of the way suicidal thoughts mess with your mind is that you begin to believe that you are a burden, you begin to believe the world is better off without you; you begin to believe that those who love you and are hurting or frustrated at you or with you because of your trials or difficulties. Sometimes they might be because sometimes it is hard to struggle with one’s own challenges, let alone those of family and friends and that’s okay but that doesn’t mean that life is better or easier without that person in it.

Over the past three years I have met with many family members of individuals who have taken their own lives and time and time again they tell me, “The pain of handling their problems with them or watching them in pain is nothing compared to the pain it is to have them gone. I would deal with their struggles forever if I could just have them back.”

If you are reading this and you are contemplating ending your life, don’t do it. Talk to a family member, a friend, a church adviser, or a hotline: 1-800-273-8255. Talk to ANYONE but don’t go, please don’t go.

Tell someone you are happy they are alive today, you might never know the difference it can make. Tomorrow is “Alive Day” and I will be spending it trying to show others I am glad they are alive, you should join me. Last year to celebrate tomorrow, I made a video about all the moments I would have missed out on if I had been successful in ending my life. Here is the link:ย Alive Day.

Life continues to bring challenges and difficulties and sometimes those old thoughts creep back in and I believe it would be better to be gone but that is a lie for me and anyone else who might think it.

We are all connected, we all need each other.

Be the difference for someone else, let them know you are happy they are on this earth and in your life.

I love you all. I am happy you are all alive!

 

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4 thoughts on “Tell someone you are happy they are ALIVE today

  1. I am happy you are alive, Mia! As a survivor of my son’s suicide, I can attest to every word you say in this post. You fill a very important role by sharing your unfettered feelings about your depression, your suicide attempt, and your way up and out. Let’s hope at least one person hears your plea to not end his/her life. Believe me, when a person ends their life they transfer their problems onto the survivor perhaps even two- or three-fold. We are left wondering where we went wrong, what more we could have done. We are haunted by Why? forever.
    I will make sure I tell many people I am glad they are alive tomorrow and every day after that.

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    1. Janet, I appreciate so much you sharing your thoughts and feelings with me and I’m glad we are both here ๐Ÿ™‚ I can’t even come close to imagining how hard it is to continue on after your son’s suicide. Thank you for being brave enough to tell your story and I know it has helped others because it has helped me. Everyday is a good day to tell someone you are glad they are alive ๐Ÿ™‚

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  2. Mia, I am so happy you are alive! Thank you for your insight and wisdom. You have an important work to do! And you are doing it!

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